Being a Repentant Dater

Dating and repentance may not seem like they have much in common, but in a recent blog post on Mormon Buzz by Stephanie Pack, she says that connecting the two principles will actually make you a better person, dater, and partner for someone in the future.

In Preach My Gospel, we read that repenting is forming a fresh view of God, ourselves, and the world around us. Here are a few ways you can apply that in dating:

  1. Repent of your thoughts. It can be really easy to see dating as just a waste of time, or that it is an outdated institution that won't work for you. Get real! There are millions of successful relationships around the world that all started with a first date. It has worked in the past, and it CAN work for you, but you have to think that it will first.

  2. Repent of your beliefs about yourself and others. I don't know why vulnerability and self doubt go hand in hand sometimes, but they do. When we are on the cusp of really getting to know someone and revealing our true selves to them, that is also a point when we start questioning our own worth -- will they still like me next week? Why would they pick me anyway? I didn't look that cute yesterday, I wonder if they noticed? Know that you and everyone around you is worthy of love. Sure, there might be some things you can improve upon, but your core character as a child of God is always important and valuable. Once you internalize that, you can do incredible things for yourself and others.

  3. Repent of your actions (or inactions). Maybe you're a serial ghoster, or you show up late, or you just stopped asking people out. You can always change and do better tomorrow.

Good luck out there!